The I'm-stuck-in-a-kind-of-a-sticky-situation Thread

[O-car]

I was gonna make this thread all about just me blowing off some steam by telling you about my current situation, but then I figured, I might wanna grind some more later, and other people might want to do the same as well, so it's a collective thread or whatever. It can be like an advice thread or something, with hookers and Carlos Daniels, and bacon

Allrighty, I'm currently attending Marshall University here in Huntington, one year exchange program from Iceland. So far it's been pretty good, I've made some great friends and what not.

I do have a few personal beefs however. The first thing is, my roommate sucks. He could be an all right guy, but we don't have anything in common, he plays Japanese video game all the time, and we don't talk, like at all. He's a quiet kid who's best friend is his mom. I've got this other guy who's willing to room with me, who's more fun than my current roommate plus he's got this friend(a girl) who I wanna bang. me and him rooming together would however mean that my current roommate would need to move down a few floors. I do feel a bit guilty however about asking him to pack up and get out.

Another thing I have right now is concerning the girl mentioned earlier. I know her kinda well, we talk a lot and hang out sometimes. She does however have a boyfriend, rather recent one, and I'm struggling with the decision of whether or not I should keep on making my move and go for her (I do hear that the guy she's with is kindofa jerk). Not sure if I should go for it, struggling between the moral dilemma involved, as well as my desire to put my nuts on her forehead.

Oh, also, I think I'm getting a bit homesick, especially since I'm not going back home till may, and I think I'm too nice of a guy. Girls seem to want to talk to me instead of letting me put my nuts on their foreheads.

 

[ShiftyPowers]

The fact that you are struggling with the morality of stealing her from her boyfriend means that you can't steal her from her boyfriend. Some nice guy who she's "just friends" with who can't bring himself to go for it will NEVER accomplish what you want to accomplish.

Should you do it? No, probably not, but if you go for it, you can't half ass it. You have to make her feel better than her boyfriend, and you have to be of higher status in her eyes than him (that's not economic).

EDIT: O-Car, there is plenty of information on the internet if you search for it, to help you break the nice guy perception/attitude/lifestyle. But true commitment to change is the only thing that will help you.

 

[King]

If i were you I did walk naked in front of his TV while he is playing his Japanese video games which will make him feel uncomfortable and leave or if he is smart he will also start walking naked and you guys will bump into each other, naked.

 

[ShiftyPowers]

You also should never obsess about a girl you aren't having sex with. By the way. You're obsessing at the idea of this girl you built up in your head and not on reality.

 

[jani]

This past few weeks SG has really become one place to really emotionally bond, eh?

 

[RobbieD_PL]

O-car man, same problem, only thing is my girl doesn't have a boyfriend, and I still can't tell her how i feel. Damn I suck. Not neccesarily wanting to put my nuts on her forehead but still. Oh and I have a single room

 

[O-car]

well Jani, it's cheaper than therapy so yeh, I figure we're all becoming emotional fags around here.

The term I wanna put my nuts on her forehead is a very strange one indeed, I've just heard it so often over here that I've started using it my self. It basically means that you want to sex that girl up. Lucky bastard for having a single room, don't have to worry about getting your roommate out when a girl comes over.

I never usually obsess over a girl I'm not tea bagging, but I don't know, this one's different. Might be a combination of the fact that I'm only here for a year, how fun and attractive she is, and the fact that she's unavailable, but the last part doesn't really apply though cause I wanted her the first time I met her.

Don't think that I'm gonna steal her away though, wouldn't feel right plus the guy looks like he could easily beat me up. I'm thinking that I'm gonna just be the supporting friend, and when the inevitable happens, I step up or something (still polishing out the details)

 

[Back Door Skip]

If you do that you'll probably get the "let's just be friends" speech. I was in a similar situation. What you should just try is, flirt like hell with her, get drunk with her and bang her. Then it can be easily justified as "it just happened". Ah the wonders of alcohol.

 

[O-car]

that's pretty much the angle I came to terms with while in class today. Probably gonna try to get her drunk tomorrow, quarter pitcher night down at a nearby bar

 

[Hans]

Go bang her you hot-rod...

 

[Mandieta6]

Out of experience, waiting and 'supporting' her will be frustrating. Talk to her and all, keep being her friend if you want, but go and 'teabag' others, as well. You don't have to start big relationships or whatever, but don't waste your time until, if ever, they break up.

 

[ShiftyPowers]

I never usually obsess over a girl I'm not tea bagging, but I don't know, this one's different. Might be a combination of the fact that I'm only here for a year, how fun and attractive she is, and the fact that she's unavailable, but the last part doesn't really apply though cause I wanted her the first time I met her.

Don't think that I'm gonna steal her away though, wouldn't feel right plus the guy looks like he could easily beat me up. I'm thinking that I'm gonna just be the supporting friend, and when the inevitable happens, I step up or something (still polishing out the details)

No, she really isn't different. That is a horrible plan because that never works. For girls it's all about how you make them feel, and when you're the supportive friend you don't make them feel sexual. That will pigeon hole you for the rest of your relationship with her (whatever that relationship might be), and you'll never get her.

 

[O-car]

which is why immediately after posting that I dropped that idea.

not sure what I'll do as of yet though, gonna figure out a way to outshine the dude though

 

[ShiftyPowers]

The best way isn't to look like a try hard and do this, but rather demonstrate to the girl that you have qualities that she likes, but doesn't see/get from her boyfriend. If you look like you are trying too hard, she will resent it and defend her BF and start to get closer to him.

The options I see are 1) Forget about her for now. There's no rule that you can't pursue her at some other time, maybe in a few months. OR 2) You try to knock the BF out of the picture, but this requires serious game that you do not have at this point and I do not recommend it.

 

[Gerrard 17]

Just do her. She's a whore for cheating on her boyfriend, you're just taking advantage of the situation and doing the right thing.

Having said that, I would whoop your ass if that was my girl.

 

[The Don't]

She has a boyfriend. Leave her ******* alone. If he's that much of a 'jerk' the relationship won't last that long anyway, and if it does, would it be worth trying to get with a girl that finds him acceptable?

 

[ShiftyPowers]

Just do her. She's a whore for cheating on her boyfriend, you're just taking advantage of the situation and doing the right thing.

Having said that, I would whoop your ass if that was my girl.

He hasn't said anything that would lead me to believe she's interested, and the truth is that he's probably blown his chance already by being a nice friend. The fact that his instinct was "i'll ride this out as her friend" also suggests that he does not have the game to get on her. Forget about her for now. There's other fish in the sea, so go **** a couple of other fish. And you know what, that will make you more desirable to her, much more than being a hanger on who doesn't understand relationships.

And yeah, I'd kick his ass also. I'd put a real scare into the girl too before I dumped her.

 

[Gerrard 17]

would it be worth trying to get with a girl that finds him acceptable?

It doesn't sound like he wants to be with her, he just wants to beat it, so who cares.

Yea Shifty I feel you but I was just speaking in general. The way I see it is if the girl doesn't care about her boyfriend then I certainly shouldn't either.

 

[ShiftyPowers]

The way I see it is if the girl doesn't care about her boyfriend then I certainly shouldn't either.

Agreed. It's on her to be responsible, I don't have any reason to be.

 

[The Don't]

It doesn't sound like he wants to be with her, he just wants to beat it, so who cares.

Good point.