Harkasar, some points in your post:
-...the players are slow and don't respond well.
... I think you are talking about dribbling? They respond just a bit later than when you make a certain move with your gamepad, right? Well, that is intentional! In real football, you cannot make a move instantly; has to do with your body-physics. This was all wrong in PES 4, where you instantly started to dribble. That way you was able to dribble pass serveral players, no matter how weak that particular player was in dribbling.
PES 5 has fixed this unrealistic dribbling; now you can forget dribbling past ten men. If you are good you go past two man and that's it! This is how the game should be! Be happy with this realism
-Passes are inacurate and most times you have no idea who you will be passing to.
Hmmm.... I think inaccurate is possible, but you should be able to get the right direction.
Here the same thing like in dribbling: Sometimes your passer has low passing attributes, which makes the chance of a bad pass more likely. Did you notice the great bouncing of the ball, making ballcontrol harder? Bad passers will produce more bouncing passes than good passers. Also the quality of the pitch has to do with it.
So, know your players! If you controll a bad passer, don't let him make a hard pass, just pass to the man closest to him!
Really, some of your bad points are in fact good points if you recognize the challenge of it
I agree with you about the xbox-controller, but that can be solved by buying the Xbox 360, although that is not really a PES 5 problem.